Why Stewart Smalley Needs to Start Telling Better-Feeling Stories

stuart_smalley  Isn’t what I teach in my blog and my books just a repackaging of positive affirmations?  I was asked that recently.

Great question.

What is the difference, anyway, between telling yourself new stories about all your life’s circumstances (which is what I teach to create a more pleasing reality) versus giving yourself positive affirmations? (Click that link to Tweet it)

What’s So Wrong with Positive Affirmations?  Nothing…Except that They Won’t Work for Lasting Change

Positive affirmations are verbal messages you intentionally give yourself, as often as possible, crafted from the perspective of being the person you wish to become.  For example, if you wish to have more money you might say to yourself:

  • “I love money and money loves me”
  • “I am worthy of having more money”
  • “I am a successful person and more money is already on it’s way to me”
  • “I believe that my money goals will be realized”

Why Positive Affirmations are Not the Same as Telling New Stories, Nor as Effective

Affirmations are a popular technique.  But I have a duty to inform you that quantum physics explains why they really won’t usually work.  Not in the long run.

Why not?  Because in our universe the quantum field uses your expectations to form your material reality.  And your expectations (your real expectations, not what you are wishing for) are formed from your beliefs.

We now know that if you want to change your material reality it is imperative that you change your expectations. (Click that link to Tweet it) And if you want to change your expectations you must change your beliefs.

The problem with affirmations is that, while they can make you feel good when you say them, they do not actually change your beliefs.  Why not?  Because your subconscious mind doesn’t believe them.  Your subconscious mind knows what you really believe, no matter how many affirmations you give yourself.

The main reason affirmations are not believable to your subconscious mind is that they are usually too positive – to focused on your highest goals and desires.  So positive affirmations end up acting as a thin veneer, covering an ocean of your true beliefs. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Still Have Doubts? 

Consider the logic:  If you are experiencing less than desirable manifestations of any goal, according to quantum physics your true beliefs about that goal cannot be as positive as they need to be.  Because, if they were, you’d already have accomplished that goal and wouldn’t need to improve your beliefs to reach it.

This is exactly why I teach you to tell the best-feeling, believable stories you can muster about all your life’s circumstances.  “Believable” is the key word in that sentence and what separates telling new stories from simply giving yourself affirmations.

How to Tell Believable Stories That Really Do Change Your Beliefs

To make your stories believable, I teach you to always acknowledge your current feelings about whatever aspect of your material reality you are improving.

Acknowledging, or validating, your true, current beliefs about your desire is simple.  All you need do is use the prefix, “Although I currently believe/feel…”  Acknowledging your current beliefs then makes the better feeling new story you’re telling believable to your subconscious.  (Click that link to Tweet it) And your subconscious is then willing to begin forming new neural pathways which, with practice, will become your new beliefs.

Go to the Top of a Snowy Hill, Curl Yourself Into a Ball, and Let Yourself Roll Down

Although the stories you initially tell won’t be as grand, nor as closely aligned with your desires, as your affirmations would be, since they are believable they will work to begin creating new, improved expectations.

  1. Your new, improved expectations will automatically begin to create a new, improved material reality for you (not as grand as you eventually want, but better nonetheless).
  2. The new, improved material reality you begin to experience will inspire you and allow you to believe stories that are even better feeling than you started with.

That is a wonderful loop to be caught in and becomes like a snowball rolling down a snowy hill, picking up more and more snow as it hurtles downward.  It works just as quantum physics tells us it will (where affirmations fail us).

So don’t necessarily ditch the practice of affirmations.  Just make sure you’re also joining me in the practice of telling better-feeling, believable stories about your life’s circumstances.  You’ll be instituting real, lasting change and you’ll love the results.

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your material reality with your desires…

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3 Comments

  1. Hey there! Travis Davis again. I am currently reading your books and also “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself” by Dr. Shad Helmstetter on the recommendation of a friend of mine (same one who turned me onto Why Quantum Physicists…) and that book seems to be all about stating positive affirmations in the present, as though you’ve already accomplished XYZ, because the subconscious can’t tell truth or not and acts only on what you tell it, etc, and stating it any way other than like it’s already happened gives your subconscious permission to push off or get to manifesting later. It seems to me that is like in golf where you tell yourself “hit it in the fairway” rather than “don’t hit it in the rough/water” because your subconscious acts only on “hit it in the XYZ”…works more often than not there I’ve found over countless trips back to the store for more golf balls. I can see your point though because I often seem to have a “second voice” that mutters underneath affirmations I might try. What is the reconciliation between the two approaches? I’m pretty new to all this law of attraction stuff (Captain Obvious reporting for duty) and want to focus on the stuff that’s going to get me “there” the quickest and am wondering if I’m playing too much tug of war with myself. Thanks for any and all input!

    • Hey Travis. Captain Obvious is an awesome title and one I’d be proud of. 😉

      Funny thing is, I’m writing about this in my new book, Why Quantum Physicists Play Grow a Greater You.

      I break desires into three categories. But, to simplify the concepts, I’ll say it like this:

      Some desires are ones you manifest well and regularly. For these desires, telling better-feeling, believable stories is basically all you need do to keep them humming along (or lift them up out of a temporary funk). The key word there, though, is “believable”. Meaning that affirmations count as better-feeling stories (and speaking in a positive frame of reference can be an awesome part of that too – for example, when I say a prayer I say “Thank you for…” instead of “Please grant me…”), yet they can often be too positive and, therefore, not believable. Believable stories are of paramount importance if you want to continue to alter the physical reality you are experiencing in substantial, substantive, and lasting ways.

      Other desires are ones you do not manifest well and have largely been absent from your life. These are often your most important desires. These desires betray belief(s) out of alignment with desire(s). In these instances, better-feeling, believable stories will not work in the long-haul. And, most certainly, “un-believable” affirmations won’t work. You must raise/uplift your beliefs to be more aligned with your desires in these cases – to enjoy more than short-term improvements/upticks in your manifestations of them. Telling better-feeling, believable stories is an important part of the belief-raising process, but the specific protocol taught in How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs is very important because it is so deliberate and intentional. Not to mention the fact that it works like nobody’s business! 😉

      I hope this information is helpful. Thanks for the book recommendation too. I really appreciate you saying hello and I take that as a sign that I’ve been of value to you.

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