He is occasionally short-tempered, often acts arrogantly, and sometimes speaks condescendingly. He complains a lot; something is almost always wrong and it’s usually someone else’s fault. By all appearances he is incredibly unhappy.
Can you imagine what it’s like to live inside his head? What horrid and bad-feeling stories has he told himself for so long that they’ve become his beliefs? He’s at the bottom of a deep well, buried in negative beliefs, and sees no way out.
In his mind, the only way he can escape his prison of unhappiness is for things outside of himself to conform to his plans. “If only things would go the way I want them to, I would be okay” or “If only people would treat me the way I want them to, I would be happy”, he constantly thinks. He is a victim in the truest sense of the word.
He doesn’t have a clue that his beliefs create his material reality – his life. And he has no idea that he has created his beliefs through his habitual thoughts. His overriding belief that he needs things outside himself to change (to be happy) is a result of a total lack of understanding about how each of us creates our world.
He could be free of his self-made prison today by taking responsibility for forming new beliefs. He could form new beliefs by learning to tell himself better stories, which, over time, will form new neural pathways of habitual thought and, thus, create a new universe for him. Instead he continues to plow the same old ground and, until he makes these changes, will always see the same repetitive, negative, displeasing, “out-of-order” universe.
Like the movie, Groundhog Day, this person is in a rut. And the only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth of the hole.
Yes, I know this person very well. Years ago, I used to see him in the mirror each morning.
Do you know this person too? If you do, do yourself a favor and set yourself free. The prison was self-created and has only been in your mind. And if you do know this person, stay tuned to this blog for your parole papers!