Why Fear is a Cool Friend You Wouldn’t Want to Be Without

fear  Fear is pretty cool.  Not only is it a handy tool, it’s supposed to be there.

Fear is your friend.  (Except, of course, when its not)  But there’s no doubt we’re supposed to have fear.


Because we must have fear in order to be human.  The root of all fear is a byproduct of something all humans must have. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Having Fear is Not Only Natural, It Actually Tells You That You Are a Human Being

What is it the byproduct of?

To be a human we must have an illusion that we are separate from everything else.  Without that illusion we’d simply be what we really are – energy that is connected at all times with all the other energy of the universe.  And if we knew we were interconnected with everything else in the universe, if we knew we could never be separated from anything or anyone else, we couldn’t experience being a human being on Earth. (Click that link to Tweet it)

I’m grateful I have this illusion so I can temporarily think that I’m separate from everything else.  Being a human being on Earth is a pretty fun adventure, wouldn’t you agree?

Yep, You Can Tell a Better-Feeling, Believable Story About Fear

Remembering all this today can lead you to actually feel grateful for fear.  You can tell yourself a new story like:

“I’m grateful for my fear today – it is a natural and necessary byproduct of being human.  And I most certainly wouldn’t want to miss out on this incredible adventure I’m having called “being alive”.

And your new story can go even further.  You can also tell yourself:

“And, although I am grateful for my fear, I am also grateful that I can choose not to give it so much power.  Knowing the important reason that I was born to experience fear, I can choose to embrace its presence today, while also choosing to limit its power over me and my decision making today.”

You’re Not Broken, So How Can You Be “Fixed”?

Telling stories like those creates a new neural pathway, a new belief.  A belief which reinforces that you are just like you’re supposed to be, you don’t need to be “fixed”, and that you get to decide your much influence fear has in your life.

So, now, when you make decisions, you can objectively decide how much you’re going to let fear dictate them.  You will have de-personalized fear and taken away its mysterious power over you.  You can observe in a detached manner because your fear is no longer “you” – it is merely a feeling you experience.

Fear is your friend, after all.  Its simply a friend whose influence you want to regulate. (Click that link to Tweet it)

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

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  1. Boy does fear get in the way of my desires! I have to break down “what is the worst that could happen” to realize fear is nothing but “false expectations appearing real.”

    • Hello Jen. What a great comment!

      The “what’s the worst thing that could happen” story is such an old habit for me; I learned it from some very well-intentioned folks while growing up.

      The funny thing is, that story is so unnecessary. Why would I habitually tell that story instead of, for example, asking myself, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” Why aren’t we taught to ask ourselves that question? Seen this way, that “worst case” story is completely arbitrary and superfluous.

      In fact, I’ll go a step further. That story is not only unnecessary, it can also reinforce expectations of negative outcomes. Which, as we know, command the quantum field to form our material reality.

      Even though I still do it sometimes, I consciously avoid going over the “worst case” scenario when I make decisions. (Although, if I’m being honest here, I still utilize it sometimes when I’m trying to convince someone else to go along with my decisions).

      Thanks so much for adding to the discussion.

  2. You are so very right. So much of it is how you approach the world, is it a friendly place for you? Reminding myself of that belief helps me not walk around in fear. The good tends to appear when you need it the most! Learning more about quantum physics is so fascinating to help me understand this even more.

    I do have my fearful moments, silly me. But they are fewer and farther between now days. I don’t dwell there since now I truly believe that super cool things are coming my way. What you desire (focus on the good!) is just a thought away.

    I LOVE your twist on the old saying turning it into the new sayin: What is the best that could happen?

    That’s going in my journal for sure. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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