Why A Big Ego is Completely Unnecessary and Actually Out of Place

big ego  Are you awesome?  I hope you think so about yourself.

Maybe you’re a fantastic lover?  Perhaps a phenomenal dancer.  Or you could be spectacular at your job.

Are you a knock-it-0ut-of-the-park speaker?  Possibly you’re very funny.

Do you feel you hung the moon in any way?

If so, if you are a bonafide king, queen, ace, mack daddy, or head honcho in any respect or regard, it is possible you might have a big ego.

But you shouldn’t.

A Big Ego is Usually No Fun to Be Around

Not because it’s off-putting.  Not because it’s not endearing.  And not because it’s obnoxious.

You shouldn’t because – you aren’t awesome because of you.  Your ego shouldn’t be huge for one reason: it’s us that made you awesome.

This article might just shrink your over-inflated head, if it needs any air let out.  And it can certainly bring you back down to Earth where you’re much easier to get along with.  But, primarily, it will allow you to take some of the pressure off yourself, ease up some on your rather harsh self-expectations, and let you feel more comfortable just being who you are and doing the best you can.


But a Big Ego Being Off-Putting is Actually Not the Main Reason You Shouldn’t Have One

To discover that, answer this question: who is responsible for you being awesome?

If you answered, “Me, of course”, I can’t say that I blame you.  There is no reason not to give that answer.  You have done some work, put in the time, and went to some effort to grow your skills and your prowess in that area of your life.  And you do deserve credit.

Additionally, however, you might be surprised to learn that you are not actually responsible for your being awesome.

It is everyone else who has shared your life which has done that for you.

You Didn’t Make Yourself Awesome

This is because you cannot dictate the version of “you” which other people create in their individual universes.  You can only be in control of your version of you – in your individual universe.  Thus, you are certainly the person who has made “you” awesome in your individual universe.  But if you are truly fantastic at something, I’ll bet you truly know that for a fact because other people have told you that you are.

And if someone has told you that you are awesome or fantastic, are you harboring the illusion that they’ve done so because that’s “the way it is”?  I hope you’ll allow me to remind you that there is no such thing as “the way it is.”

If you are awesome or fantastic, in someone else’s eyes, you are awesome or fantastic because they decided to bestow that upon you.  It was completely their decision and it was a gift to you that only they could bestow.

I Made You Awesome!

You are awesome or fantastic in their individual universes.  They have chosen to imbue you with those qualities, that meaning, and that value.  They have decided to create their version of you in a manner which makes you (or allows) you to be awesome or fantastic.

Now you know why a big ego is not only off-putting, but also entirely out of place.  You are awesome, by the way – because I decided to make you awesome.  And if you’re returning that gift, thank you!

And stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align your beliefs with your desires and live a live of your dreams…



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  1. This reminds me of that question about the tree falling in the forest – does it go “Crash!” if there is no one there to hear it? It’s like, would Elvis be “The King” if no one had bought his records? And closer to home… what are we if we do not put our talents out into the world? Who are we, to hold ourselves back because we feel we might not be good enough? It’s awful lonely, staying hidden in that forest.

    • Thanks for saying hello again, Steve. I enjoy your energy (and recommend that other folks check out Steve’s site, The Biggest Room).

      I mention your site here because it speaks to what you’re saying. You and I (and countless others) are making our best contributions. We’re not waiting until we’re “good enough”, so to speak, to contribute our talents – to contribute what we have to contribute.

      If we do not make that contribution, guess what? It will not be made. We are the only ones who can contribute what is ours to contribute.

      Thus, there are no small contributions. And there are no unimportant contributions. In fact, how much more important could you, I, or anyone be?

      Now, that tree? Since there is no objective, non-observer-dependent material reality, I’m afraid that without the observer that wouldn’t (yet) be a forest. Instead it would be unformed energy with the potential to be a forest. And with the potential to make a sound like “Crash.”

      As you know, it takes a “Steve” to collapse that energy, move it from potential to definitive “thing”, and experience it. That’s the fun of being an observer and perceiver!

  2. “All are architects of Fate,
    Working in these walls of Time;
    Some with massive deeds and great,
    Some with ornaments of rhyme.

    Nothing useless is, or low;
    Each thing in its place is best;
    And what seems but idle show
    Strengthens and supports the rest.

    For the structure that we raise,
    Time is with materials filled;
    Our to-days and yesterdays
    Are the blocks with which we build.

    Truly shape and fashion these;
    Leave no yawning gaps between;
    Think not, because no man sees,
    Such things will remain unseen.

    In the elder days of Art,
    Builders wrought with greatest care
    Each minute and unseen part;
    For the Gods see everywhere.

    Let us do our work as well,
    Both the unseen and the seen;
    Make the house, where Gods may dwell,
    Beautiful, entire, and clean.

    Else our lives are incomplete,
    Standing in these walls of Time,
    Broken stairways, where the feet
    Stumble as they seek to climb.

    Build to-day, then, strong and sure,
    With a firm and ample base;
    And ascending and secure
    Shall to-morrow find its place.

    Thus alone can we attain
    To those turrets, where the eye
    Sees the world as one vast plain,
    And one boundless reach of sky.”

    -H. W. Longfellow

  3. To see a world in a grain of sand
    And Heaven in a wild flower
    Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
    And Eternity in an Hour

    William Blake must have known about Quantum Physics when he wrote “Auguries of Innocence”

    • I agree Rosanna. Thank you for sharing that with us.

      Did you know William Blake finished number 38 in a BBC poll of the 100 Greatest Britons?

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