Maybe you’re a fantastic lover? Perhaps a phenomenal dancer. Or you could be spectacular at your job.
Are you a knock-it-0ut-of-the-park speaker? Possibly you’re very funny.
Do you feel you hung the moon in any way?
If so, if you are a bonafide king, queen, ace, mack daddy, or head honcho in any respect or regard, it is possible you might have a big ego.
But you shouldn’t.
A Big Ego is Usually No Fun to Be Around
Not because it’s off-putting. Not because it’s not endearing. And not because it’s obnoxious.
You shouldn’t because – you aren’t awesome because of you. Your ego shouldn’t be huge for one reason: it’s us that made you awesome.
This article might just shrink your over-inflated head, if it needs any air let out. And it can certainly bring you back down to Earth where you’re much easier to get along with. But, primarily, it will allow you to take some of the pressure off yourself, ease up some on your rather harsh self-expectations, and let you feel more comfortable just being who you are and doing the best you can.
But a Big Ego Being Off-Putting is Actually Not the Main Reason You Shouldn’t Have One
To discover that, answer this question: who is responsible for you being awesome?
If you answered, “Me, of course”, I can’t say that I blame you. There is no reason not to give that answer. You have done some work, put in the time, and went to some effort to grow your skills and your prowess in that area of your life. And you do deserve credit.
Additionally, however, you might be surprised to learn that you are not actually responsible for your being awesome.
It is everyone else who has shared your life which has done that for you.
You Didn’t Make Yourself Awesome
This is because you cannot dictate the version of “you” which other people create in their individual universes. You can only be in control of your version of you – in your individual universe. Thus, you are certainly the person who has made “you” awesome in your individual universe. But if you are truly fantastic at something, I’ll bet you truly know that for a fact because other people have told you that you are.
And if someone has told you that you are awesome or fantastic, are you harboring the illusion that they’ve done so because that’s “the way it is”? I hope you’ll allow me to remind you that there is no such thing as “the way it is.”
If you are awesome or fantastic, in someone else’s eyes, you are awesome or fantastic because they decided to bestow that upon you. It was completely their decision and it was a gift to you that only they could bestow.
I Made You Awesome!
You are awesome or fantastic in their individual universes. They have chosen to imbue you with those qualities, that meaning, and that value. They have decided to create their version of you in a manner which makes you (or allows) you to be awesome or fantastic.
Now you know why a big ego is not only off-putting, but also entirely out of place. You are awesome, by the way – because I decided to make you awesome. And if you’re returning that gift, thank you!
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