Who is Truly Responsible for Oscar the Grouch Being So Angry?

Greg as Oscar  I might be as far from Oscar the Grouch as you can get.

Yet seeing something I don’t like can make me angry.  There’s nothing unusual about that.

What is a bit unusual, however, is knowing what being angry actually means.  

What is going on, anyway, with Oscar the Grouch from Sesame Street?  Why is he mad all the time?

You Are Not Wholly Responsible for That “Thing” Being There, Just It Being There in YOUR Universe

When you see (or observe) some “thing”, you are contextually creating a real and distinct version of it in your individual universe.

That does not mean that you are, literally, creating that “thing.”  Contextually creating means that you are creating your own, unique version of that “thing” in your own, unique universe.  The universe that you are the only one experiencing.

And you are, literally, contextually creating.  You are not creating some “interpretation” of that “thing”; your contextually created version of that “thing” is wholly and completely real in your individual universe.

And you, like me, sometimes contextually create a “thing” that makes you angry.

Or sad, frustrated, disappointed, etc.

Who Needs Enemies?

Why do we do this to ourselves?  With friends like ourselves, it might seem, who needs enemies?


But stop!  I need to add a very important component to our explanations here: 99.9% of the time, when you contextually create a “thing” which makes you angry (or some other undesirable emotion), you have created it unintentionally.  Even if you’ve contextually created such a “thing” many times, chances are you’ve been continually creating it unintentionally.


The answer lies in the antidote to contextually creating “things” which make you angry.

Why You (and I) Create “Things” We Don’t Like

We unintentionally contextually create when we don’t listen to and heed (or don’t know we can, or should, listen to and heed) our picture-perfect feedback loop.  Our feelings.

In other words, many people remain trapped in the illusory world of:

  1. Thinking life is happening “to” them.
  2. Thinking that changing the “thing”, itself, is the way to alleviate their anger (or any other undesirable feeling).

The antidote I spoke of is to use your feelings the way they are intended to be used.  As mirror-perfect feedback about how in, or out, of alignment your beliefs are with your conscious desires.

Use Your Feelings to Become Your Own Greatest Ally

When that feedback is unpleasant (as anger usually is), you are getting the following information:

“Hey!  The beliefs which are being mirrored back to you in the form of this ‘thing’ you are contextually creating are not aligned with your desires for it.  This reflection is alerting you that the source of it (your beliefs) is out of alignment with your desire.”

And that information provides you the option of beginning to do what?  Contextually create that “thing” intentionally.  By intentionally aligning your beliefs about it with your desires for it.

And stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to intentionally design a life of your dreams…



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  1. So let’s say my husband had an affair. I was angry. Very angry. I agree that my beliefs about marriage and commitment are out of alignment with what is going on… and my resistance to “what is” magnifies and keeps the anger coming back around and around, but in terms of manifesting, I get confused. The actions of someone else are outside my hoola hoop.

    How would you explain “contextually creating” in this scenario?

    (I work with women in conflict and would be interested in your thoughts)

    • Hey Deborah. Thank you for posting this. I LOVE the challenging questions! Thank you for the opportunity to be of value to you – it is an honor.

      I actually have a chapter about this in Why Quantum Physicists Play “Grow a Greater You”. Not about affairs or women in conflict, in particular, but about why bad things happen to good people and what we can do about it.

      Here is an idea and how I frame things like this when I experience them: I agree 100% that we can never control another person’s actions, ideas, and attitudes. And we most certainly do NOT manifest other people (since they have a consciousness, just like us).

      Yet we will always create our own, individual version of each person. And we will always create our own, individual version of each person’s actions, ideas, and attitudes.

      There is TREMENDOUS power and freedom in this type of contextual creation!

      When something very unpleasant is experienced through the actions, ideas, and/or attitudes of someone else, we can remember to tell ourselves the best-feeling, believable story about it. And, sometimes, we find that the best-feeling, believable story is “This pretty much sucks, it hurts, I can’t see how anything ‘good’ could ever come out of it, and I wish it weren’t happening. AND I can also choose to see it as information. Painful information and information I would prefer not to be receiving – but information nonetheless. And I can also choose to refrain from definitively calling this ‘bad’; I sure as hell am not going to call it ‘good’, but I do NOT have to label it ‘bad’. In fact, I do not have to give it any label at all except (painful and undesirable) information.”

      That version of the unpleasant experience or event is enough to keep the possibility very alive that the quantum field can use even this (as undesirable as it may be) to connect the dots for us in unimaginable ways.

      Do I “create” something like a spousal affair? Certainly not literally; I certainly didn’t “ask” for it, nor did I desire it.

      Of course, I participated in manifesting it. No matter how much I want to deny that or pretend like I am a complete victim.

      Yet I didn’t “intentionally manifest” something like a spousal affair. My spouse took actions, espoused attitudes, and held ideas which were very responsible for this unpleasant experience.

      What I can do, from this point forward, however, is intentionally craft my own, unique version of this experience. One which serves me. Or one which, at least, doesn’t harm me further. That is contextual creation in full, powerful bloom. And such contextual creating transforms victims into empowered self-actualized advocates of their own freedom and fulfillment.

      I hope this is helpful. I know you can facilitate transformational growth in your workplace with such empowerment (as I’m sure you already do). I’d love it if you choose to share such experiences.

  2. Yes! I love this: I can “intentionally craft my own, unique version of this experience. One which serves me.” I believe we can choose to be present with ourselves without any resistance, and in those moments there is this thing larger than the label… the big what if. And the big what if opens the door to my belief that the universe is bringing me this (healed) or something better.

    • Thank you for affirming that response, Deborah.

      I was listening to NPR yesterday; I heard an interview with a scientist who is an expert in the field of colors. He said that a color is a mix of three things: the nature of the material object, the amount of light present, and the observer assembling that data. Without the observer assembling that data, the “color” would not exist.

      And he also went on to say that each of us experiences color (and everything else) completely subjectively and, for all we know, completely uniquely.

      Yes, we have the power and authority to define our version of every single material experience as we choose. Isn’t that wonderful, my friend?

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