I guarantee that I can teach you one thing that will explode each day you spend playing “Grow a Greater You” with spontaneous-combustion-level growth.
Doubt me? Read on and see for yourself.
You’re Basically There, All That’s Left Is To Perceive It
You’re already way closer than you know. I do not believe for one second that you are far (in spiritual distance, not chronological) from “being” the beliefs you desire.
Which, as you know, means that those beliefs will be reflected back to you in every person, place, and thing you experience. In other words, that’s how manifesting actually works.
And now you want me to guarantee I can make your game of “Grow a Greater You” go into warp drive? Well of course you do! And you’re absolutely encouraged to do so! If I’m not growing and continuing to lead the way, I need to get out of your way.
You Can’t Unlock a Door Without a Key, Right?
Here is all you have to do: Be completely, totally honest about every, single, individual person, place, and thing you experience every moment of each day.
That is the key.
No matter what your honest feelings really are you are always honest with, at least, yourself about them. If sharing them aloud might offend too greatly or cause harm to another, I suggest keeping them to yourself.
And total emotional honest all the time is non-negotiable.
A Key That Unlocks Another Key
Now here is the key to that key. The veritable master key, you’ll soon discover as you use it. This is how I can guarantee, 100%, that this honesty will explode your growth as you write and live your way up the Emotional Reference Chart.
There are two kinds of emotional honesty:
- Sharing to LEARN.
- Sharing to BLAME.
And all you must do to fire up that rocket ship is share to learn.
Sharing to Learn Doesn’t Require Anyone Else
Bear in mind, though, that “sharing” does not require you to tell anyone else. Sharing is, in face, often only with yourself. That is know as intrapersonal communication and it will be your most common form of sharing honestly.
Here’s how you share to learn:
- You listen to the feeling, share it (at least with yourself), and process it.
- When a person, place or thing is displeasing, you pause and say, “Wow. Look at this. This (person, place, or thing) is reflecting some displeasing beliefs of mine back to me . Do I want to ‘win’ and ‘be right’, in this situation, or do I want to be pleased by the reflection I cast? Being honest with myself, I may want to ‘be right’ (and the other ‘wrong’), but I truly and authentically want to be pleased by my reflections more. And from that awareness, which decision can I authentically make that will serve my true desire to be pleased by my reflections?”
- Every feeling gives you vital information – ABOUT YOU! Not, mind you, information about what any person, place, or thing is “doing wrong” and what they need to “do differently” so you can be pleased. (That is how to be emotionally honest to blame, by the way)
Sharing to Learn Doesn’t Mean You’re No Longer Allowed to Make Judgments
I’m not suggesting for a moment that people, places, and things bear no responsibility for their qualities, characteristics, decisions, and actions. Saying that everything and everybody is “okay” with you is not what it means to share to learn. As you’re honoring and being honest about your real feelings, after all, you will be motivated to do everything from merely honoring your preferences all the way to setting boundaries.
Rather, you are simply sharing to learn from your real feelings. You share your real feelings because you are not blaming any person, place, or thing for them. Yes, your feelings are present as a result of experiencing a person, place, or thing, but what is actually causing those feelings are your own beliefs.
Because your beliefs are always reflected back to you in every person, place, and thing you experience.
Thus, it is not the person, place, or thing, that actually “causes” your feelings. A person, place, or thing is, as far as you’re experience is concerned, meaning neutral until your beliefs are reflected back to you by it.
Sharing to Blame Creates Illusions, Familiar Yet Painful
Sharing to blame is the opposite. It is a method of keeping your illusions in place and it almost always stems from the erroneous idea that “you” are “wrong” when you feel unpleasant emotions. What a travesty; unpleasant emotions are your greatest teachers because they show you where your beliefs are not aligned with your desired outcomes.
When you share to learn, what you learn isn’t that you are “wrong.” What you learn is that you are holding beliefs that don’t serve you.
Try being completely honest, no matter what, by sharing to learn. I guarantee you that your growth up the Emotional Reference Chart will soon resemble a 4th of July fireworks show.
And, by the way, there is a second key: listening to learn. I’ll share about that one in an upcoming post.
And please stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques for using paradigms from quantum physics to align your beliefs with your desires and start shooting off your own fireworks…