What To Do When You Backslide Into Old (Bad) Feelings

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA  You’re changing your beliefs, slowly but surely, by consistently telling yourself the best-feeling, believable stories you can muster.  In fact, you find yourself at the emotional perspective of “joy” regularly these days.  Your manifestations are pleasing – they reflect the greater alignment between your beliefs and your desires.

And, them, BAM!  You backslide.  All of a sudden, you’re feeling low.  Depressed even.  Like you used to feel so often.

What’s wrong?  What should you do?  Start over?

Thankfully Beliefs are Not Permanent – You Will Always Retain the Ability to Choose

The new beliefs you’re gaining from your new storytelling are real.  Don’t worry about that.  Yet those new beliefs are also no more permanent then your old ones.

And, by the way, thank goodness your beliefs are not permanent!  After all, the impermanence of your beliefs is what allowed you to change the old ones in the first place. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Each day, you awaken with a choice now – regarding your beliefs.  Which beliefs do you want to focus on and hold?

The process you’ve been following really works, as you know, and it has given you many more positive choices.  Yet, each day, they’re still choices.

Old Beliefs Are Like Old Blue Jeans – Comfortable and Easy to Slip Into

So do not be discouraged by backslides into old negative feelings and beliefs.  Instead, simply remind yourself that old habits die hard.  Up to now you’d spent your lifetime, after all, building those old beliefs – those old neural pathways in your brain.  And, while they weaken with continued disuse, they do not go away overnight.

Your new beliefs are still unfamiliar when compared with the old.  And, as surprising as it may sound, the familiar pain of your old beliefs can be very preferable to your subconscious.  Why?  Because your subconscious prefers the known and the predictable (because, even when it’s painful, predictability means safety to your subconscious). (Click that link to Tweet it)

So, when you do backslide, a great way to manage yourself back to alignment is to tell yourself a story like this:

“I’m feeling low right now; I’m feeling things associated with my old, out-of-alignment beliefs.  That’s curious.  I wonder why?  It’s not enjoyable and I don’t really prefer it, yet I also know that my feelings are not ‘who I am’.  My feelings are simply a feedback loop letting me know how in (or out) of alignment my beliefs are with my desires – in this moment.  How nice to also know that my beliefs are arbitrary and personal; I can decided, right now, to belief just about anything I choose.”

That self-affirming story depersonalizes your feelings (and your backslide), halts any resistance to it, and puts you back on the path of acceptance.  Which leads you back toward your new beliefs which are more aligned with your desires.

And, of course, stay tuned to this blog for continuing tips and techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your dreams…

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    • Hey Ben. Thanks for the compliment. I went to your blog and noticed you linked to mine – thank you for that too.

      Want to hear something fun? This morning I posted this article on my site. One of my sons had a friend stay the night last night. The young man is named…can you guess? Ben Howell.

      When I returned from a grocery store run, after posting this article, I discovered that you left this comment. All the while, the “in-the-flesh” Ben that we know was down the hall sleeping after a long night of video gaming (with some work on a school project mixed in 😉 ).

      My first thought was, “I didn’t know Will’s friend reads my website”. Then I soon discovered it wasn’t him after looking at your site and Twitter.

      Small world.

  1. I have started to stop and acknowledge my backslides and accept them and in that moment of acceptance their power and hold over me seems to dissipate quickly leaving me free to be grateful for my positivity and my positive thoughts expand and are free to grow:) Thank you for your page its inspiring!

    • Jill, you are inspiring me by letting me know that I’ve been of value to you today. There is no higher honor, in my experience.

      So thank you for conveying that energy and sharing your praise with me.

      I concur that acknowledging and accepting a backslide (rather than beating yourself up for it) is like shining a heat lamp on an ice cube. Goodbye ice cube!

    • Thank you Krishna. I appreciate you for letting me know that I was of value to you.

      Please make yourself at home here.

  2. Hi Gregory. I’m just finding your site, and reading about Quantum Physics. I really am completely new to all of this. I found you through Pam Grout, an author, who is a childhood friend. I’m having alot of difficulty with all of this, as you can imagine, coming to learn about quantum physics at an older age, but am approaching all of it with an open mind and hoping to learn alot more. I appreciate all the work you have done, and for your openness and your ability to share all of this with all of us. Will let you know how things go on occasion. Thank you again.

    • Hello Jennifer. Thank you for introducing yourself.

      I am very excited for you because I know that with the following three ingredients:

    • Willingness
      Open-Mindedness
      Patience
    • You will not, you cannot, fail to manifest your desires. Once your beliefs are in alignment with them, it becomes as easy to manifest them as putting on your favorite pair of jeans.

      And by all means, please do me the honor of letting me know how you’re doing.

    • You’ve cracked the code for feeling good in this moment. And this moment is all there is and all we need.

      Thank you for the timely reminder, Frank!

  3. Hi Greg,

    Is it wise to work on 2 desires at once? Would the sad/depressed feelings of working on one thing affect possibly much better feelings experienced when working on something else?

    Thanks.

    • Hello Lynn. Thank you for allowing me to be of service to you today.

      As tempting as it is to tackle a number of those long-term bugaboos, I highly recommend resisting that at all costs. Your subconscious brain needs to be coaxed into new beliefs with patience and deliberation.

      One desire at a time.

      However, know that I’ve found that moving one desire up the chart often results in collateral beneficial effects. Often in surprising and fun ways, other areas of your life may very well improve right along with the area you were working this process on.

      Thanks for sharing.

  4. Hi Greg,

    I’ve read your life-changing awesome book “How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs”, and unfortunately I’m having a hard time now.
    I’ve done the “Grow a greater you” game on the subject of money. After two months, I was at the top of the Emotional Reference Chart. I felt awesome, as never before in my life . Then I thought ” Well, I’m done with this subject, I might just go to the next one (weight). I didn’t have any manifestations in the financial area, but I thought it would happen any time soon and I could just let go.
    Turned out that suddenly I started to feel worried and insecure again.
    So my questions are:
    – When should I stop playing the game on one subject and go to the next one? Do I have to wait for the manifestations?
    – Do I have to start the process all over again on the subject of money?

    Thank you so much for your amazing work.

    P.S. Sorry for any gramma mistakes. I’m brazilian.

    • Thanks for asking, Priscila. I am honored you’ve given me opportunities to be of value to you.

      I say, do not “wait” for manifestations. In my experience, your beliefs will continue to grow and unfold in necessary ways from the top of the chart. You’ll get “there” (although in reality, you already are!) soon enough as long as you stay open and patient. Of course, as you already know the view from the top of the chart is gorgeous in the meantime.

      So I would put another desire through the process. Money is an great one to do it with.

      Happy growing!

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