What Everyone Actually Desires

Ashamed Achiever  We don’t really desire people, places, things, and events.

We actually desire experiences.

We desire to experience love.  We desire to experience abundance.

We desire to experience health, confidence, success, worth, importance, respect, efficacy, fitness, joy, security, etc.

Why the “Sad Clown” is the Oldest Cliché in the Book

People, places, things, and events are circumstances.  As much as they may seem to, circumstances are unable to reliably deliver experiences.  You and I both know about:

  • The rich person who is unsatisfied and still needs more
  • The married person who is lonely and still longs for intimacy
  • The fit person who painfully critiques an unattractive, flawed body
  • The achiever who never truly accepts others’ admiration

None Of the Things That Were Supposed to “Work” Ever Did

The examples could go on for pages.  You have many of your own; you’ve had occasions where you achieved something you imagined would give you the experience you desired.

Graduation from college, turning twenty-one, having a child, getting the promotion, buying your dream car, etc. are all examples of circumstances many of us thought would confer a desired experience upon us.

Only to find, to our disillusionment, that they didn’t.  Unfortunately, many of us didn’t take our disillusionment to heart and sought out the next circumstance which would magically bestow our desired experience upon us.  Only to find, in the end, the whole idea really was an illusion after all.

Circumstances reflect our experience.  Circumstances do not create our experience.  The experience comes first – your experience is the hearth from which your circumstances are transformed into whatever meaning and value they hold for you, in your universe.

You Can’t Use People, Places, Things, and Events to Create an Experience

Intentionally creating a desired experience transforms your circumstances into reflections which enable and manifest your experience in tangible form.  Luckily, intentionally creating a desired circumstance is a simple task called “aligning your beliefs with your desired experience.”  I refer to that task as “simple”, of course, because that exactly what “Grow a Greater You” teaches you to do.

So, while it’s usually quite impossible to ignore your circumstances, you can stop blaming them for your pain and suffering.  And you can also stop chasing new circumstances to resolve your pain and suffering.  Now you can keep your focus squarely upon creating desired experiences by aligning your beliefs with those you desire.

And your circumstances will transform, in tandem, right in front of your eyes.  Without any special effort to make them do so.

And stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques to align your beliefs and desires by using quantum paradigms so your life more resembles the one you’ve dreamed of…

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  1. At first there seems to be a very fine line between our circumstances and our experience. The two seem inseperable. For example, if we desire lots of money (circumstances) so that we can enjoy the freedom to travel (experience), then it seems impossible to have the latter without the former. The experience seems to depend on the circumstances.

    However, when I think of the people I know who have travelled the world, and still do so quite freely, none of them have ever had much money. What they have is a mindset firmly rooted in the experience that they want, and always circumstances somehow mould themselves to that, often in seemingly magical ways. They are not hampered by the thought that first they must have lots of money.

    So, yes! If we are to experience what we desire, we definitely need to let go of preconceived notions that having a certain experience depends upon specific circumstances being in place first. That idea clearly stands in the way.

    And the more I think of actual examples, the more I see in my own life that this has always been so: amazing experiences come first and circumstances always flow into whatever form is needed – which is rarely the form that seemed to be needed.

    Now, to do this consciously…. Watch this space 🙂

    • Steve, I am watching. And, more importantly of course, you are.

      Thank you for sharing.

      Manifesting experiences is the most beautiful thing I’ve learned in a long time. Circumstances (people, places, things, and events) are not how to manifest experiences, but that illusion is so challenging to see through.

      Beliefs, as we’ve known for a while, transform every circumstance into whatever you need it to be so you can experience those beliefs. Thus, the circumstances are irrelevant because they’ll all be transformed, by your new beliefs, into whatever is necessary.

      What a relief! Success is now so simple and, honestly, easy that I use success to motivate me (instead of using motivation to be successful).

      I call the whole enchilada Systemic Manifesting. I’m making good progress on the book; can’t wait to hear what you think.

  2. Glenda Green is an artist. And in her book “Love Without End,” she claims Jesus, Himself, appeared to her for a portrait.

    Anyway, during the process, He explained many things – including THIS response to her question: “If there is infinite supply, why do we believe in scarcity? What has conditioned our beliefs so deeply that we cannot see beyond our limitations?”

    He answered: “That is because you consider all substance to belong to the structure which gives it form, instead of viewing the free-flowing river of life as infinite potential connected to its Source.”

    So, the “free-flowing river of life” is connected to its Source?

    And its Source is called “I Am.”

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