Do you ever take the feedback you receive personally?
For example, when you receive the following information, do you take it personally – the sniffles, chills, and a fever? When you have the sniffles, chills and a fever, after all, that is information which tells you that you probably have a cold. And, thus, you now know you need to rest and recuperate if you wish to be well.
Information Telling You that You Have a Cold is Not “Who You Are”, of Course
But you don’t allow that information to define your self-worth do you? You don’t let that information dictate the meaning and value you ascribe yourself? You don’t take that information personally, right? The sniffles, chills, and fever are not “who you are”, they are merely symptoms of something you can change.
No, and beyond that, you’re actually grateful for the information because it is useful and helpful. You wouldn’t want to first learn you had a cold because you collapsed and had to be rushed to the hospital would you?
Yet, there is lots of other information, or feedback, you do take personally. Almost every time. In fact, there is some information that you probably never even thought of as feedback – there is no option other than taking it personally. Some types of feedback you have only ever thought of as defining you, rather than giving you useful information.
Yet Other Information Almost Always Becomes “Who You Are”
What types of feedback fall into this category? What types of feedback do most people only take personally? Rather than ever seeing it in the same vein as the sniffles, chills, or a fever?
In my experience, these are the top three:
Is it absolutely crazy to call those things “information?” Is it insane to say that those things are “information” akin to the sniffles, chills, and fever alerting you to your cold?
Yes. Absolutely. If you have no desire to become the most powerful intentional creator of your life possible, it is crazy to call weight, money, and relationships “information”. And you should feel free to stop reading this crazy article.
But if you have a desire to be more influential regarding creating a more pleasing material reality, think again.
Do You Really Think I’m Actually Asking You to Do Something Here that You’re Not Already Doing?
Think about it for a few moments, in fact. Because you already use the feedback about your weight, money, and relationships as information. But I’ll bet you take that information personally.
That’s right – you’re already currently using your weight, money, and relations as “information”, you’re simply using them as ways to define yourself and label “who you are” (and, in the process, using them as sticks to metaphorically beat yourself with).
- For example, if your weight displeases you, you say “I’m fat” or “I’m ugly.”
- If your money displeases you, you say “I’m poor and unworthy” or “I’m a loser.”
- If a relationship displease you, you say “I’m lonely” or “I’m unlovable.”
That’s actually using the feedback as information. But it’s taking the information personally. It’s a misuse of that information to use it as a measurement of your self-worth and value. That information’s role is not to define who you are.
That information, like all else, is merely a thermometer reading.
You’re Already Using Money, Weight, and Relationships as Information – You’re Just Mis-Using Them to Define Yourself
Because your material reality is always and without fail a reflection of your beliefs.
Not a reflection of you. “You” are not your beliefs. Your beliefs are subjective and changeable. They are not who “you” really are.
So when you’re displeased with your current manifestation of your body, it is improper and self-harmful to say “I am fat and ugly.” Instead, tell yourself, “My current beliefs are reflecting a displeasing body back to me. This is not pleasant nor enjoyable. This information alerts me that, if I want to experience a more pleasing body shape, I need to raise my beliefs about food and about my body so that they are more aligned with my desires.”
And when you choose to see such feedback this way, as information, you can even add (eventually), “Thanks, displeasing body, for the information. Now I know what to do.”
And stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your dreams…