The Most Common Ways People Unknowingly Abuse Themselves

Do you ever take the feedback you receive personally?

For example, when you receive the following information, do you take it personally – the sniffles, chills, and a fever?  When you have the sniffles, chills and a fever, after all, that is information which tells you that you probably have a cold.  And, thus, you now know you need to rest and recuperate if you wish to be well.

Information Telling You that You Have a Cold is Not “Who You Are”, of Course

But you don’t allow that information to define your self-worth do you?  You don’t let that information dictate the meaning and value you ascribe yourself?  You don’t take that information personally, right?  The sniffles, chills, and fever are not “who you are”, they are merely symptoms of something you can change.

No, and beyond that, you’re actually grateful for the information because it is useful and helpful.  You wouldn’t want to first learn you had a cold because you collapsed and had to be rushed to the hospital would you?

Yet, there is lots of other information, or feedback, you do take personally.  Almost every time.  In fact, there is some information that you probably never even thought of as feedback – there is no option other than taking it personally.  Some types of feedback you have only ever thought of as defining you, rather than giving you useful information.

Yet Other Information Almost Always Becomes “Who You Are”

What types of feedback fall into this category?  What types of feedback do most people only take personally?  Rather than ever seeing it in the same vein as the sniffles, chills, or a fever?

In my experience, these are the top three:

  1. Weight
  2. Money
  3. Relationships

Is it absolutely crazy to call those things “information?” Is it insane to say that those things are “information” akin to the sniffles, chills, and fever alerting you to your cold?

Yes. Absolutely. If you have no desire to become the most powerful intentional creator of your life possible, it is crazy to call weight, money, and relationships “information”.  And you should feel free to stop reading this crazy article.

But if you have a desire to be more influential regarding creating a more pleasing material reality, think again.

Do You Really Think I’m Actually Asking You to Do Something Here that You’re Not Already Doing?

Think about it for a few moments, in fact.  Because you already use the feedback about your weight, money, and relationships as information. But I’ll bet you take that information personally.

That’s right – you’re already currently using your weight, money, and relations as “information”, you’re simply using them as ways to define yourself and label “who you are” (and, in the process, using them as sticks to metaphorically beat yourself with).

  • For example, if your weight displeases you, you say “I’m fat” or “I’m ugly.”
  • If your money displeases you, you say “I’m poor and unworthy” or “I’m a loser.”
  • If a relationship displease you, you say “I’m lonely” or “I’m unlovable.”

That’s actually using the feedback as information.  But it’s taking the information personally. It’s a misuse of that information to use it as a measurement of your self-worth and value. That information’s role is not to define who you are.

That information, like all else, is merely a thermometer reading.

You’re Already Using Money, Weight, and Relationships as Information – You’re Just Mis-Using Them to Define Yourself

Because your material reality is always and without fail a reflection of your beliefs.

Not a reflection of you.  “You” are not your beliefs. Your beliefs are subjective and changeable. They are not who “you” really are.

So when you’re displeased with your current manifestation of your body, it is improper and self-harmful to say “I am fat and ugly.” Instead, tell yourself, “My current beliefs are reflecting a displeasing body back to me. This is not pleasant nor enjoyable. This information alerts me that, if I want to experience a more pleasing body shape, I need to raise my beliefs about food and about my body so that they are more aligned with my desires.”

And when you choose to see such feedback this way, as information, you can even add (eventually), “Thanks, displeasing body, for the information. Now I know what to do.”

And stay tuned to this website for more tips and techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your dreams…

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  1. It was a big step to realize that what I have in my life is what I have created and, good or bad, I too often let it define me. It is only recently that I realize the “bad” stuff is just a confirmation that I don’t want to go in that direction, I want to in a different direction. To let it go, thank it for the directions it gave me and move on.

    I find this is hardest with body/weight issues. But now I am going in the right direction. It is being patient with something that you have to deal with every minute of every day that is the hardest.

    Thanks for the post!

    • Hey Jen. What a pleasure to be given your gift. What gift? The gift of allowing me to be of value to you.

      I have found that weight is one of the most commonly (and most hard-core) personalized areas of feedback about our beliefs. Our body is meaning-neutral; like all else, our body is merely a feedback loop about our current beliefs about it (and about food, exercise, etc.). Granted, this information provided us about our beliefs regarding our body carries a heavy emotional charge (it can be very pleasing or displeasing), but the information itself is merely a reflection of our beliefs.

      Most of us have (understandably) personalized this reflection. Our beliefs’ reflection provided by our body has come, for most, to represent their personal value and worth as a human being. Thus, a displeasing body reflection means that I am unworthy, wrong, and “bad” (instead of meaning that I merely have beliefs which are not aligned with my desired outcomes for my body).

      You have my strongest energy freely given to you in the hopes that your journey of freedom continues. Playing “Grow a Greater You” with your body will NOT “fail”; you will continue to see your reflections as feedback (rather than statements about your worthiness) and you will intentionally align your beliefs with your desires!

      I can’t wait to hear more about it, Jen.

    • Thank you, Krishna. Your gift to me is allowing me to be of value to you. It’s a gift only you can give and one I deeply appreciate and value!

  2. Oh thank you soooo much for this article. I have just bought 4 of your books in the space of a week and although some of the material is repeated, I don’t mind at all because it helps reinforce the concepts for me. Let me just say, I’m not new at the LOA thing and it has helped me improve my life in many ways but I’m believing for even bigger breakthroughs and to really experience (note I’m trying not to say ‘get’ or ‘achieve’ as I understand it’s not a destination as we understand it) my deepest desires around health, wealth and relationships. I’m about 1/3 into your Building New Beliefs book and I’m taking my sweet time because now I understand that simply papering over my deeply subconscious beliefs has only gotten me so far until it all backfires on me again. I’m now into number 19 of the emotional reference chart working on my health and the truth is it’s not hard to get into the emotions because I feel them all at the same time if I’m really honest about it. Can’t wait to eventually say that I’m seeing all of my deepest desires in my life as I slowly but surely align my beliefs onward and upward. Thanks again.

    • Thank you for your comment, Trish. I’m honored that you’re allowing me to be of value to you.

      Your patience will be rewarded, because building new beliefs does work. It’s a lifelong (and very fun and rewarding) game!

  3. Greg, Thank you for the gift of wisdom you provide. I have read “Why Quantum Physicists Do Not Fail” and highly recommend it to others. I am a student of “Think And Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. This book supports that enormously. I have a friend, Sandy Leveque, who hosts a daily TAGR hangout on facebook. She is another student of your book. She works in network marketing and would love to interview you. She is designing her own life in a marvelous way. Look for her at

    Thanks again for your contribution to the lives of others,

    • Thank you so much for your kind words and praise, Glenn. I’m honored that you’re giving me opportunities to be of value to you.

      I’ve reached out to Sandy, as you suggested.

      Thank you for taking the time to share your energy with me.

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