The Best Rock and Roll Song for Soulmates

The following post is from my newest book, set for publication in a month or so.  Hope you enjoy.


Chapter One – The Sobbing Runner

Some of the experiences I have with my soulmate overwhelm me.  That’s because I’m now experiencing the soulmate relationship I always dreamed of after years of longing for it.  This book describes how I learned to finally create these experiences, not one describing what I learned.  If you sincerely follow what I’ve learned to do, however, you will learn the things you need to.  And your experiences of love and intimacy could very well surpass mine.

I’d like to begin with a story of how powerfully my experiences with love and intimacy can be now.  I am an avid runner; moving my body powerfully through space on a warm, sunny afternoon is one of my favorite activities.  Recently, while running my third mile on just such an afternoon, a song caused me to unexpectedly burst into tears.

The Front Bottoms’ catchy song, Help, has a sincere message about relationships.  On this run, though, I heard more than a cool song – I heard some ideas that caused me to unexpectedly sob with gratitude.  Right in the middle of my run, shocked by the enormity of emotions, I openly cried for about thirty seconds without breaking stride.

I laughed later, imaging a neighbor thinking, “If running upsets him so much, why does Greg keep doing it?”  Here is the verse from The Front Bottoms’ song, Help, which moved me so deeply:


I watch her throw her hands up into the air.

I hear her say, “Don’t worry.”

The lovers will go down together into the flames with nothing else,

But the promise to meet up and hang out.

To hang out.

Oh, to hang out.


My Soulmate is Someone Who Hangs Out?

I get chills reading those lines because that is how my wife became my soulmate.  My wife doesn’t stop loving me no matter what.  My wife doesn’t criticise me often because she knows I’m doing the best I can.  And she does tell me the truth..  My wife is my soulmate because she doesn’t quit on me.

To create that relationship, however, I first needed to learn better ideas about love and intimacy.  You see, we can experience only what our ideas are capable of creating.  For example, I needed to learn that what I’d been labeling criticism wasn’t actually criticism at all. My wife helped me learn better ideas about love and intimacy because she was as committed as a soulmate – a partner who stays with me after my current ideas become inadequate.  And, in a bit of joyful irony, those better ideas she helped me learn are what made it possible for me to experience her as my soulmate.

My soulmate taught me how to manifest a soulmate.  Now I’m going to teach you how to manifest yours.

When your current ideas about love and intimacy become inadequate, your relationship becomes painful.  Those flames The Front Bottoms sing about?  They represent the painful experiences of defending my inadequate ideas about relationships (when I didn’t yet know about learning better ones).  Those flames can the death of a relationship, when you’re not learning better ideas, but if you desire a soulmate they can be a forge manifesting great experiences of intimacy and love.

Fire Is Painful

The fires roared for a while.  I was well-practiced in my demands about hearing only what I wanted and I was an expert at defending all my worst ideas.  But my wife kept her promise.  My wife hung out with me amid experiences too painful for my previous soulmate candidates.  And, more importantly, experiences that had been too painful for me also.

I’d never been honest with myself during those most painful fires, let alone with my partner.  I ran from them too, so I could keep the inadequate ideas causing them a secret.  One of my worst ideas was that you would reject me if you found out how inadequate some of my ideas about love and intimacy really were.

My wife hung out with me amid the flames of some really bad ideas about love and intimacy.  Flames that burned my previous relationships to the ground.  This time, however, I stopped defending them long enough to listen and learn.  Keeping her promise to stay, my wife helped me finally learn ideas capable of creating the relationship I always wanted.  

Fire Can Be Extinguished

We still meet up and hang out, but the fires are mere backyard barbeques compared with some of the bonfires we endured.  I hope there are always better ideas to learn about love and intimacy, so my experiences can continue to grow more fulfilling.  If that’s the case, I expect we’ll sit through an occasional flame or two.  As I grow more in-tune with hearing better ideas, though, the flames are less painful.

The Front Bottoms know my soulmate – a partner who hangs out in my flames until I learn better ideas about love and intimacy.  My tears were a mixture of gratitude for my wife’s commitment and painful memories of defending bad ideas on the graves of dead relationships. Better ideas continue to create better experiences of intimacy and love.  It would take another lifetime to repay my wife and, thankfully, she says the same about me.

What would’ve happened, though, if I hadn’t been willing to learn new ideas?  Or, alternatively, what would’ve happened if my wife’s ideas weren’t really better than mine?  What if my wife stayed, but I never stopped defending my bad ideas?  Wouldn’t I have taken advantage of her?  What if I had invested myself in my wife’s ideas, only to discover she was untrustworthy and unreliable?  Wouldn’t she have taken advantage of me?

Those concerns will be addressed more thoroughly later.  But, no, better ideas can even create better relationships when your partner is untrustworthy and unreliable.

Why Eating Donuts and Pizza Aren’t the Real Reason You Have Unwanted Weight

child-obesity-donut-md  Last week I conducted a quantum experiment on myself where I re-tested the quantum effects of how I feel about my body, my eating, and my exercise.  Call it a mind/body experiment.  The results were posted here.

I Tried to Love All the Donuts and Pizza With Every Bite I Took

When I started this experiment, I told myself, as I ate each donut, “I love this donut!  I relish this donut!” (Not “I shouldn’t be eating this”).  I did the same thing with the pizza.  This is one of the techniques I teach in my book, Why Quantum Physicists Don’t Get Fat.  And I did feel good about the donuts and pizza.

For about a day and a third.

By the second day, I no longer really believed those stories; I didn’t believe that many donuts and that much pizza were actually “good” for me (who would?).  I kept eating them, of course, only because that was part of my quantum experiment.

Why I Couldn’t Actually “Love” Them for Very Long

But I tell you about this because what I teach you is that telling the right stories about food is an integral part of Why Quantum Physicists Don’t Get Fat.  I want to emphasize that simply telling good, better-feeling stories about food isn’t enough if I don’t actually believe those stories!  Just like with any positive story (or affirmation) I tell myself, I have to really believe it for it to work.

And I did the same thing with my lack of exercise during my experiment.  I told myself, “It’s okay to not be exercising.  I can keep my body primed just by feeling good about it.”  But, as with my donut and pizza fest, after a day and a half, I just didn’t believe that story any more (because, again, would would?).

So, consequently, because I didn’t actually believe those good, better-feeling stories I was telling myself about my eating and lack of exercise, I began to “feel” fat.  Just as I described in my original post about the experiment.

My Return to “Thin” Was Not About a Spartan Diet or a Ramped-Up Exercise Schedule

Now, many days later, I am completely back to feeling thin.  So, as quantum physics dictates, I also see “thin” in the mirror and on the scale (although I don’t actually use scales…more about that in a later post).  Because I believe I am “thin” again, I am thin again.  That’s how the universe works.

Why does it sound so simple?  Because, basically, it is so simple.  If you really learn to focus on the right things, your beliefs and the stories you tell yourself, in the right ways.

During the last five days, after all, I did not go on some spartan diet to gain my “thin” back.  I still ate ice cream each night.  I still ate cheese and bacon three-egg omelets for breakfast.  I still ate cashews as a mid-day snack.  All my regular eating (no “dieting”)

And I didn’t do extra exercise during the last five days either.  My running routine would not qualify as “workout warrior” material!  I jog at a reasonable pace (one that a serious runner would probably scoff at) for around two miles a day, four to five days a week. I concentrate on picking up my knees on each step (rather than shuffling my feet), I stay in the present moment (instead of thinking about “being finished”), and I focus on how good it feels to work my lower body and raise my heart rate.  All my regular exercise (no “killing” myself).

How I Became “Thin” Again in My Mind (Where It Always Has to Happen First)

So the return to “thin” was all quantum.  Just as the feeling “fat” had been.  Because how “fat” could I have become, really, after only four-plus days of my bad diet and non-exercise?  Even though the diet was really bad, I only ate it for four-plus days.  And I only abstained from exercise for five days.  I wasn’t “actually” fat, I just felt that way and, thus, felt “fat” and saw “fat” in the mirror.

I hope you can sense the power quantum physics has for reforming your body.  It’s true that, just as I did back in 1996, you probably do have quite a bit of weight to lose.  You have undoubtedly been feeling and seeing “fat” for years, so you won’t be feeling and seeing “thin” in a couple days.  But, also like me, the process of finally losing your unwanted weight using quantum physics will work exactly like what I’ve described in this experiment.

Stay tuned to this blog for more tips and techniques about using quantum physics to finally lose your unwanted weight…