How You Can Make a Better Decision

Denise Finch asked about how to make fewer choices which turn out not so good, although they initially seemed like good ones.  I ran with it today to write this post.

It’s Easy to Make a Great Decision Afterward

 

In retrospect is the only way you can view such a choice, of course.  Since you think it’s a good one when you make it, you only discover otherwise afterward.  And hindsight is almost always 20/20.

 

Blinded By “Need”

 

I recommend looking at the “need” which caused you to ignore potential warning signs.  In retrospect, you can discover what you’re missing.  That void, that “need”, is a wound, raw enough to create a painful experience.

 

Not Paying Attention Is Risky

 

Painful experiences can be caused by wounds you’re not actively healing.  When a wound is raw, you have to stop paying attention to information which might inflame it.  Whenever you’re not paying attention, you leave yourself more open to pain and harm.

 

Enlightened by Healing

 

Alternatively, healing your wounds can be the best measure against making bad choices which initially seemed like good ones.  The more present and aware you are, the higher the probability you’re going to make better decisions.

 

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How to Enjoy Mopping the Kitchen Floor and Change Your Day in the Process

Buffet-Breakfast  When was the last time you ate at a sumptuous buffet?  With the choice to fill your plate with whatever foods you want, did you head for the food that you don’t like and ladle it onto your plate?

Did the stewed okra catch your eye?  Fill your plate with lima beans?  Take two huge servings of brussel sprouts?

Of course not.  While you probably didn’t load your plate with nothing but bacon, pastries, and banana pudding, I’ll bet you focused on foods you enjoy.

Isn’t It Wonderful to Skip the Brussel Sprouts?

Isn’t that the appeal of a buffet, after all?  You have the freedom to choose – and skip over what you don’t enjoy in favor of what you like and want.

Aren’t we lucky then, that each day we’re alive is a buffet?  With each moment, we are offered the same freedom to choose.  To choose to tell ourselves stories about (assign meaning to) our life that feel bad and keep us separated from the experiences we desire.  Or to tell stories that feel good and align us with the experiences we want.

No, you don’t necessarily have choice over all your actual experiences; picking and choosing each experience you have is not what makes life a buffet, because most of us don’t have that much influence no matter how long we’ve practiced creating our own reality.  What makes life a buffet is the choice you have regarding the story you tell about (the meaning you assign to) each life experience.

You Don’t Have to Pretend to Like Anything to Take Advantage of Life’s Buffet

Does this mean that you should pretend to like things you don’t?  Perhaps you aren’t thrilled to be mopping the kitchen floor or you’re not excited to be staying late at the office to finish some paperwork – should you be acting like you’re loading your plate with tasty roast beef from the buffet line?

No.

But alternatively, do you have to say, “Mopping the floor sucks and I hate this!” or “I am so mad I’m here at the office late and this has ruined my evening!”?  Who made those rules?  And why do you often act as if you have to follow them?

Life is a buffet because you get to chose the stories you tell.  Why not say, “Although I’m not necessarily overjoyed to be mopping this floor, I am glad that my family and I will get to enjoy a clean kitchen” or “Maybe I’d rather be doing something other than this paperwork right now, but I am grateful I have this job and I feel good about doing it well.”

Given the abundant choices surrounding you today, try these kinds of stories and see what an amazing difference they make.  And stay tuned to this blog for more about how to tell new stories and create a more desirable reality…