We desire experiences like love, health, and wealth.  Although certain circumstances are more apt to create such experiences, experiences aren’t circumstance-dependent.  For example, while having a romantic partner offers us great potential for experiencing love, we can experience love without one.


We know that desired experiences create feelings like happiness, fulfillment, and security.  So, when we encounter painful feelings from less-than-desired experiences, it can worry us.  Sometimes we feel sadness, anger, or fear when we think we shouldn’t.


“This Shouldn’t Be Happening!”


Sometimes we lament, “I shouldn’t feel like this; I’m worthy of love (or health, wealth, etc.)!  I should be past these kinds of feelings by now!”  On top of the pain accompanying such feelings, we worry they’re revealing that we’re not really worthy of our desires.  We’re often dismayed by what painful feelings’ presence might be saying about who we really are.


Who can blame us?  After so much effort growing beliefs, who wants to learn that they still feel unworthy of their desired experiences?


No Real Need for Concern, It Turns Out


But such concern often impedes the reconciliation between spirit and body which can resolve painful feelings and create more fulfilling experiences.  Concern, it turns out, which is mostly unnecessary.  We are spirit, after all, and body.


We are our bodies and bodies are where feelings happen.  We are also spirit and spirit is where experiences happen.  Some of our feelings will always be painful and, when our body is having them, the only thing we need to do is feel them.  Feeling them doesn’t make them what we “really” feel about ourselves or our circumstances because painful feelings are not how we “really” feel.


Painful Feelings Aren’t How You “Really” Feel


Painful feelings are simply one way we feel about ourselves or our circumstances.  They don’t cancel out the potential for fulfilling experiences nor do they mean we don’t really believe ourselves worthy of them.  Painful feelings are just something we, our bodies, are feeling in that moment.


Honor your body by feeling with as little judgment as possible.  Just as you honor spirit by experiencing with as little judgment as possible.  Then you can find solutions through reconciliation by asking yourself: “Why did it bother me that much?  What, in me, was threatened?”


Sing Your Self a Love Song – From Both Directions


To kickstart your efforts, I invite you to listen to these two songs during your next un-exercise session.  These are links to Spotify:



Good luck keeping a dry eye!




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