The Four Pathways: Manifest Desires As The Universe Intends
You’re about to discover four pathways capable of manifesting any experience you desire. Take these Four Pathways to experience abundant intimacy, wealth, health, or anything else you choose.
The Four Pathways teach you everything you need to manifest any experience. Adjust according to what you learn and the experience is yours. You do not need to earn it, nor must you deserve it; though it will grow more pleasing as you continue, the experience is yours immediately.
Can you follow the Four Pathways? Ask yourself:
- Am I capable of beating myself up less?
- Am I willing to be more honest with myself?
- Can I be a more attentive student?
- Will I look a painful truth in the eye if that means I can manifest an experience I’ve always desired?
I believe your answers reveal you’re more than ready. The answers are waiting, for you alone; the Pathways will help you finally formulate the questions those answers resolve so you can experience your desires. You are about to be taught, individually, by the universe itself.
What you’re about to learn will make sense. I doubt you’ll find anything, in fact, you haven’t already done before. If you’re curious, desire your experiences to be more pleasing , and are open to new paradigms, you’re all set.
The First Pathway: Don’t “Call It”
When hospitals “call it”, they’re documenting the moment that patient becomes lifeless and no longer requires treatment. Most people document undesirable experiences like hospitals do dead patients. Except “calling it”, during a painful experience, documents the moment you’re no longer able to influence it.
We all assess, or judge, every experience. How you assess an experience, however, is not written in stone; you’re allowed to evaluate experiences however you choose. Learning not to “call it”, your first pathway, is a simple change providing an immense reward.
To not “call it”, assess an experience as a work in progress. Because, of course, it is. Each experience is like a patient, thriving or ill, and you’re the doctor taking the temperature and listening to the pulse. Not “calling it” means not making a final diagnosis, only giving a check-up.
A check-up, after all, provides valuable information which helps both doctor and patient make adjustments as needed. How helpful would it be if your doctor was limited to “You’re alive” or “You’re dead”? Your assessments, or evaluations, of experiences have been limited by the same unhelpful feedback.
Haven’t you been told you’re right where you’re supposed to be? And haven’t you sometimes wanted to slap that person? But now you know why that phrase gets repeated; since you do need to learn from painful feedback, you truly are where you need to be. If you plan to transform that painful experience into a desirable one.
In fact, an undesirable experience will remain so until you stop “calling it” and start treating it as in-progress.
When you no longer “call it”, you’ve switched to formative assessment. Formative assessment, a fancy term for in-progress evaluations, is tailor-made for adjustments. Tasting soup while you make it, for example, is formative assessment because you still have time to adjust the recipe.
Formative assessment is actually a huge part of creating something. Could a chef truly cook soup to her greatest standards without tasting it along the way? Without in-progress evaluation, for instance, a need for more salt would go undetected.
Yet even serving soup to a customer is still a formative assessment if you don’t “call it.” And why should you “call it”, under any circumstances? Winners are simply people who don’t give up; we all understand, as Thomas Edison said, a failure merely means you’ve learned one more way something won’t work. Not “calling it” is the most appropriate way to evaluate any, and every, experience.
Evaluate every experience as either “pleasing” or “displeasing.” You’ve used judgments like “right” or “wrong”, “pass” or “fail”, and “win” or “lose” because they “call it”; “pleasing” and “displeasing” are formative because they’re not final. When you don’t “call it”, every experience remains open to improvement.
The Second Pathway: Be Honest
You’re no longer “calling it.” Assessing experiences formatively, judging them “pleasing” or “displeasing”, keeps them a work in-progress. And anything in-progress, even when it’s pleasing, can be improved upon.
You cannot improve an experience, however, while lying about your feelings. Thus your second pathway is to be honest about your emotions. This simple change not only affirms your inalienable worthiness, but also allows you to learn exactly what you need to know.
If you’ve been practicing the Law of Attraction, you’ve undoubtedly been lying to yourself about negative, or painful, feelings. You’ve been led to believe that you’re not supposed to feel emotions that will chase away your desired experiences. And, conversely, you’ve been taught that emotions associated with a desired experience is how to have it.
You feel pleasing emotions during desirable experiences, correct? Since you also feel displeasing emotions during undesirable experiences, isn’t it logical to associate experiences with the feelings surrounding them? That is logical.
The problem isn’t that feelings and experiences aren’t associated – it’s that you’ve got their association backwards. Feelings cannot create experiences; experiences produce feelings. The feelings produced by experiences have something to teach that you can learn nowhere else. So until you’re emotionally honest, you cannot learn what is absolutely necessary.
Frustrated by a displeasing experience, many give the universe what they think it requires – positive feelings. We refer to such lies as positive affirmations. But have you ever given yourself a positive affirmation about a desire you’re experiencing abundantly?
Since positive affirmations are employed only during undesirable experiences, you are lying about how you really feel. And when you lie about how you feel, you are not allowing the universe to teach you through emotional feedback. In other words, a positive affirmation is the feedback you wish the universe were giving you about a displeasing experience.
Pay attention to defensiveness, a red-light indicator of emotional dishonesty. In fact, any time you perceive criticism or misunderstanding, start looking for your emotional dishonesty. When your experiences are displeasing you’ll be inclined to lie to yourself about your feelings.
Part of why you haven’t been honest with yourself about your emotions is because of what they reveal about you. You worry about what it means to feel such immature, self-centered, or insecure emotions. But censuring your emotions renders you unable to learn the lessons they hold for you.
Emotional honesty, even only privately, unleashes the essential lessons you’ve been waiting your entire life to learn. In fact, emotional honesty is the only way to transform painful experiences into desirable ones. Being honest with yourself, especially about your most painful emotions, allows the universe to teach the perfect lessons.
No matter how treacherous an emotion, without regard for the danger it seems to represent, be honest with yourself about how you feel. No matter how angry, ashamed, betrayed, inadequate, guilty, judged, unworthy, and inconsequential you may feel. Your audacious choice to be honest allows you to learn what you’ve always needed to know.
The Third Pathway: Learn the Lessons
When you don’t “call it” you’re going to have feelings about that experience. Being honest about feelings requires expressing them to yourself. Learning the lessons those feelings have requires listening to feedback. Thus, learning lessons from your feelings requires courage and empathy.
Learning the lessons utilizes the growth mindset of not “calling it.” Learning the lessons uses your emotional honesty to learn what an undesirable experience has to teach you. That lesson is something you’ve always wanted and needed to know.
Painful experiences are often caused, or at least usually influenced by, someone, or something, else. Painful experiences don’t seem self-generated because they’re not. Yet even harmful people and awful things can teach you essential lessons.
Hit the pause button and don’t “call it” when a desired experience goes wrong. During that pause, be honest with yourself about your feelings. While still paused, honestly and directly express your feelings, even if only to yourself. Finally, with empathy, learn exactly what the source of your undesirable experience tells you about yourself.
Even untrustworthy or critical people can teach you exactly what you need to know. Sometimes an experience is painful, in fact, because a person really is untrustworthy. Even if you trusted an untrustworthy person, don’t you want to know why? Learning how you helped create a painful experience can be very painful, but so necessary.
The lessons teach you about your beliefs. You and your beliefs are one system, but only your beliefs are being scrutinized when you learn the lessons. You’re going to feel anger, fear, and sadness; you’re going to feel misunderstood and criticized. Yet, unpleasant feelings aside, you’re not discovering how and where you went wrong.
Scrutinizing your beliefs is not the same as blaming them however. Your current beliefs were given to you in childhood by whoever, or whatever, influenced you then. Beliefs absorbed during childhood form your private blueprint for how life works, transforming every circumstance into their reflection.
Your displeasing experiences don’t teach you that you’re wrong. They don’t teach you that your beliefs are wrong either. They teach you that your beliefs are not capable of reflections that are desirable enough. Your feelings direct you toward your beliefs which cause an undesirable experience while being reflected back to you.
You no longer need waste time defending and justifying arbitrary beliefs you never asked for. After learning how misaligned they are with your desires, you can improve them. And watch your circumstances transform into the experiences you desire.
In the ultimate irony for many of us, experiencing your greatest desires is done by learning why you’re criticized, berated, and misunderstood. Let’s acknowledge that there are monstrous people and inhumane experiences. But, unless you’re truly afraid for your well-being, learn everything about yourself that you ever feared.
You desire intimacy, for example. First you need to learn why you experience intimacy so painfully. During such an experience, you don’t “call it” and are honest about how you feel. Then you learn how you contributed to that painful experience. Over time, you’ll let go of blaming and won’t worry about expressing how you feel as much. And you’ll gladly listen more, with empathy, to learn.
Experiencing your desires right away makes learning your lessons magical, even in the midst of painful feelings. And you can reliably grow virtually any experience as you desire by adjusting your beliefs to the lessons you learn.
The Fourth Pathway: Adjust
You now have the growth mindset needed for formative assessment and are honest about your feelings. Being honest about your feelings, especially painful ones, teaches you something you’ve always needed to know about your beliefs. Now you adjust your beliefs based on what you learned.
You do not adjust yourself, you adjust your beliefs. Adjusting your beliefs offers you control over that which influences every experience. The subjectivity of your beliefs, revealed when circumstances naturally transform in accord with adjustments, is your ticket to the experiences you’ve always desired.
You don’t have to do more or work harder. You merely need to be more honest and learn more of the lessons. Doing so helps you adjust your beliefs by intentionally growing them into full alignment with your desires. Keep making adjustments and you’ll actually experience your desires more fully than you may have imagined possible.
The Four Pathways can grow your beliefs into alignment with any desire. And you get to experience that desire, right now; from day one, though not yet the fullest version, you experience your desire. Your experiences of that desire can eventually grow beyond your dreams for it along the Four Pathways.
You start walking the Four Pathways at whatever emotional perspective, from my Emotional Reference Chart, you find yourself. After learning the lessons your current emotional perspective has, simply move your focus up to the next emotional perspective on the Emotional Reference Chart. From that slightly more positive emotional perspective, keep walking the Four Pathways.
The process continues indefinitely and there is no limit to the growth of your experiences. But your desired experiences aren’t waiting for you at the top of the Emotional Reference Chart. You experience your desires from the first step on the Pathways, as pleasingly as your current beliefs can manifest.
The Four Pathways work with your subconscious brain and in accord with how you function in our universe. As you change your beliefs, your circumstances will transform into whatever meaning and value necessary to reflect them. You’re no longer chasing your desires, you’re now experiencing them.
Where to Go From Here
My last book Why Quantum Physicists Play “Grow a Greater You” is the perfect place to start for now. Yet please pore through all my books. By the time you’re done, my new book will be published and you’ll be ready to max out. I owe a special thank you to Tanya Stewart who should think of herself as a contributor to the strongest portions of my work. And my primary thank you goes to Shawn Marshall, my guide on the side who I probably couldn’t experience any of this without.
This is my first published account of the Four Pathways. Please let me know how I did. Of course, I’ll go into much greater detail in teaching the Pathways in my next book. In it, you’ll learn how to use fun, simple concepts like:
- Using “Not yet”
- Having a guide on the side
- No longer playing adult dress-up
- Manifesting experiences instead of circumstances
- Why there are no misperceptions
- Manifesting by making something evident to your understanding
- Cultivating round beliefs
- Creating instead of manipulating
- Finding questions that fit the answers
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