How to Hack Yourself

Celso Antonio Almeida asked if we live in a holodeck.  A holodeck like the one made famous in Star Trek: The Next Generation.

I ran with the idea.  I hope you take it to anaerobic un-exercise too.

 

Okay – It’s a Holodeck

 

Let’s say this is a holodeck.  While it’s not necessarily one literally, there’s a strong metaphor there.  We are a temporary deviation from an energy state, so I can see the holodeck comparison.

 

If It’s a Holodeck, Though, What’s Going On?

 

In your holodeck, you probably want the same thing I do in mine.  You probably want more control over experiences.  You want to experience more intimacy, connection, wealth, and success.  And experience less separateness, loneliness, doubt, and timidness.

You, like me, want to rewrite the holodeck’s software.  So you can experience more things the way you want.

 

You Aren’t Doing Anything Wrong

 

Fortunately, from my perspective, the software is not only accessible, it’s also rewritable.

The software is you.  You give meaning and value to everything and, thus, create every experience.

Your thoughts, desires, and actions influence your holodeck immensely.  Your fulfilling experiences are testimony to that.  You have lots of great experiences.

Some of your experiences don’t respond as well.  Rewriting the software, however, can change some of those experiences.

 

You’re Not the Only Cause

 

If life is a holodeck, doesn’t that suggest experiences are somewhat subjective?  Yes.  But your experiences are not subjective, they are the ones you have.  Subjectivity simply means the software can be rewritten.

 

Hack Yourself

 

Want to hack yourself?  Try this, while in an anaerobic state:

  • When you feel really angry, also search for fear
  • When you’re really scared, also search for anger
  • When you find the other, you find a raw wound
  • A wound can heal

Healing a wound can re-write the software

 

 

 

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The Importance of Enjoying Myself

When it comes to my relationship with my wife, I want to enjoy myself.

Pretty simple, right?

I want to experience intimacy and connection.  That’s a good definition of enjoying myself.

And I don’t want to experience judgment and disconnectedness.  That’s a good definition of not enjoying myself.

 

I Want to Enjoy Myself, Not Live in a Fairy Tale

 

How often do I not enjoy myself in my relationship?  Once is too often when it’s unnecessary.

But I don’t want Nirvana; I want to enjoy myself when it’s possible.

And I know, for a fact, that I have missed out on perfectly good opportunities to enjoy myself!

 

Enjoying Myself Takes Enjoying My Self

 

I propose that it’s not possible to consistently enjoy myself in a relationship unless I learn to enjoy my self.

What does it mean to enjoy my self?

For starters, it means I reconcile myself by processing all my feelings when my relationship experience is too painful.

When things become too painful, I am no longer enjoying my self.

 

See For Yourself 

 

Try this experiment:

  1. Think of a recent relationship experience that made you very angry
  2. Spend 30 minutes in an anaerobic state
  3. During that 30 minutes, allow yourself to feel that anger
  4. Then, also during that 30 minutes, feel how you are frightened by that experience
  5. Allow yourself to feel the fear too

Let me know what you find.

 

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Our discussions in the comment thread need to be civil and respectful.  I am the sole determiner of what constitutes civility and respect.