Are you a critical person?
I am sometimes.
I Do Not Enjoy Revealing My Inner Mr. Hyde to You!
I was at the YMCA the other day and paid attention to my internal dialogue. I’m not proud to admit that I’m not always happy with it and, on this particular day, I found myself criticizing the people with more weight than me. And coming up with reasons for why the people with better physiques than me were shallow jerks.
That was not an easy thing for me to type. I hope I’m not the only person who sometimes judges my insides against other people’s outsides. (Click that link to Tweet it) And I hope I’m not the only person who occasionally feels enough fear that I try to make myself feel better about myself by privately diminishing or devaluing someone else.
My Two Beliefs About Self-Acceptance, Pre and Post-Quantum
I’m proud to say that I think of myself as an awesome, incredible, wonderful person with amazing gifts, talents, insight, and much to offer. I hope you, too, feel that way about yourself. Before immersing myself into new paradigms from quantum physics, however, I did NOT feel that way very often.
Reflecting with my soul mate yesterday, I shared with her that my self-worth has morphed into two distinctly different beliefs. I’ll give you two guesses which of these two beliefs is the enlightened, uplifting, post-quantum one. And your first guess doesn’t count:
- There are times when I believe I am an awesome, incredible, wonderful person with amazing gifts, talents, insight, and much to offer at the expense of other people. I accomplish this by criticizing them, as I did at the YMCA the other day. This is my old (pre-quantum) belief – feeling good about myself by diminishing those around me. And, thank goodness, the times I tell those kinds of stories are now significantly fewer and farther between.
- There are times when I believe I am an awesome, incredible, wonderful person with amazing gifts, talents, insight, and much to offer in unison with all the other awesome, incredible, wonderful people with amazing gifts, talents, insight, and much to offer of this world. In other words, I feel that way about myself and about you too! Having a high self-worth is not a zero-sum game; we can all participate (and I hope you are joining me). This is my new belief that I’ve crafted from years of telling myself better-feeling stories about other people.
An Easy Antidote For Fear-Based Self-Worth
This is exactly why I propose you try replacing any criticism you’re doling out with praise. Almost any time I find myself criticizing someone else, it’s a red-light indicator that I’ve slipped into the fear-based belief of needing to feel okay about myself at your expense. (Click that link to Tweet it) Stopping that criticism in its tracks, replacing it with praise, and directing that praise toward the people around me is the perfect antidote for that self-made prison.
Try it today and see what you find.
Because needing to diminish someone else so that I can feel good about myself is merely a belief I created for myself through repeated bad-feeling stories I chose to tell myself. I have created new beliefs that uplift and enhance my self-worth while praising others’ at the same time, by telling myself the best-feeling, believable stories about you and me.
As always, our beliefs are always open to revision and improvement when we realize they are not serving us or are not aligned with our true desires. (Click that link to Tweet it)
These Stories Feel So Much Better and I’m Grateful to Have the Opportunity to Tell Them Today
Instead of criticizing those people at the YMCA, I can choose to say:
- To the heavier folks – “Congratulations for being here and taking action to be a healthier, happier person. Thank you for showing me that others are also striving to align themselves with their desires.”
- To the better physiques – “Thank you for showing me what someone can do for themselves when they believe they are worth a high level of self-care. I am grateful you are here today to inspire me and show me what I can achieve too.”
I hope you can agree those stories feel so much better than those devaluing criticisms of my old, fear-based belief. And, through them, I see a much more pleasing physical reality more closely aligned with my desires.
Stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to change your life…